Mar. 23, 2017

The New Normal.....

What excactly is "normal"....

I dont care what anyone says...no on knows what exactly is normal....and really...most people have to admit that normal has everything to do with personal perception...personal experience and really.....personal everything....

One of the blessings of living in America is all the "normals" that are avaliable here....you can literally choose whatever "normal" you want and can change your normal at will...whenever you feel...as often as you want....what a blessing....!!!!

WIth all the latest political stuff going on, we now see how much we have taken these freedoms to have our own "normal" forgranted and most of the times we dont see these freedoms, although they are ALWAYS right in front of our faces......and I'll just use myself as an example.....

I am a single women and at 32...33 this year and no solid prospects.....at times I feel it and would LOVE to have a lover and best friend in my life....then, I got chin checked yesterday, after a solid 8 day......80 hour work week at the day-job, I deceided to watch a Netflicks flim called Dowry Law......

This was a film that examined the alarming rise of dowry crime in India, where brides are increasingly at risk fo being killed for their wedding gifts.....they then talked about about a young women who was beautiful...smart and was on her way to finishing her medical degree who was married, in an arranged marriage to a fellow medical professional....

They had a Grand....Grand wedding where no expense was spared....many fathers start saving for the Dowry when their daugthers are born but, still at times....its not enough, as was the case with this young lady.....

Long story short, the husbands family was upset that the brides family woulden't provide the Toyota car that was requested....(yes....a Toyota)......and that was after they were given over 125,000 Rupees.....and many...many other gifts but she ended up dead.....with her husbands family claiming that she hung herself....

They didn't want to call the police or report anything but the brides family had to do so when they arrived, after she had been dead for a few hours.....

This Netflicks flim brought out that this was a normal thing in places where Dowry's are the custom and that brides are burned alive....beat...and killed everyday because their family hasen't given her husbands family enough money and/or wedding gifts...

WAIT...WHAT....!!!!

Exactly how I was feeling as the credits rolled...

In my ignorance and fogetting to see the wonderful freedoms of my "normal" of being single.....I had not realized that things like this were still happening....Unaware that women were still being given at prices and if the price wasent right....bye felisha....

SMH....

Really...my point is to just appricate YOUR NORMAL....whatever that is....

Also remembering that this normal should be shifting and changing as you shift and change and thats cool too....but no matter where your at...no matter whats going on.....don't ever take it forgranted....ever.....