"Adulting"

When thinking about it...those two words really shouldn't go together....yes....all parents will eventually have adult children but in today's world...those words have taken on new meaning....they have translated into literal adults acting like children....it seems as though these last couple generations have not learned how to "adult" very well...have not learned that everything does not happen the way you want ALL the time.....have not learned that bills need to be paid and not only that....U must go to work to make the money to pay those bills....have not learned to deal with hard times or really deal with information or situation that may not be the most pleasant....

Most of our parents come from a generation of no nonsense...they were told to suck it up and get it done and that was the only choices but as they raised their families....they wanted their children to have choices...choices....choices....and that's exactly what they gave us...we could literally do and be anything we wanted and they made it happen....but maybe...just maybe there were too many choices....having the world at your feet at all times...whenever you wanted can be nice but as they say absolute power corrupts absolutely....

Unfortunately, I've watched a number of these adult children struggle through life with no work ethic...no drive to be better....entitled and selfish....all while their parents are confused and hurt because they thought they had done a darn good job of showing their children that you can have anything if you're willing to work hard....

"work hard".....ummmm......yes, parents....they saw YOU work hard but they never touched it...they never felt it....never knew that you had to go without somethings so they could have....never saw the bills and how you managed the money to make sure those bills got paid...they never saw HOW you gave them everything...they just knew it could be done...

Now...they are "adulting" and they are grossly under prepared....under informed and not ready for the craziness that life can produce...and who's to blame....???...

I hear so many say...well, my mom did this and my mom didn't do that and we didn't have this and we didn't have that but at what stage does your parents become free and clear of being responsible for your life...at what stage do the children start to think and understand that they have a say in the matter.....understand that they can say hey...if I want that...I can work hard to have that....at what stage is it no longer your parents fault....

And when it comes to "parents" and "fault"....as I'm sure those who are now parents know and understand, there is truly no guidelines to parenting.....no book to tell you the do's and dont's of children and really...no matter how much you prepare....your never really ready and you never really know what you're doing....so with that in mind....you adult children out there...try and cut your parents a little slack...try and show them that working hard to give you the world taught you that you too could work hard to give yourself and eventually them ( cause we all know the cycle of life) any and everything....show them that their work was not in vain and that as adult children....you're "adulting" well.....